Why saying no is not a bad thing

You get certain types of people who can just never say ‘’no’’ to anyone. And if you are reading this, then you are probably one of them!

It is all good to help others, help where you can and in the capacity that you can. But sometimes we overly want to help others by trying to meet their demands or expectations, that we neglect ourselves and our own needs.

Now this may seem a tad bit selfish and not exactly something that would be written on a blog that encourages abundant love, right? Wrong. It is one thing to help others, want the best for them and the best for their well being (even if they don’t wish the same for you), this is having an attitude of abundant love for all. And there is a huge different in always giving everyone you meet everything you’ve got just to try and make them happy or because you feel they might love you in return.

The latter only brings people to you who feel that they can use you for what you have. The type of people who won’t show love, gratitude and respect for all you are doing for them. This is the type of people who will continue to demand that you keep on helping them and make you feel bad or incompetent when you say no.

Before saying “yes’ ’again… Ask yourself what do you really want in life? What are your goals, ambitions and dreams? And how can you achieve it if you continuously choose to ignore your own needs and work as a slave for others who do not appreciate you? Do you think that maybe these people will help you achieve your goals if you continue helping them?

News flash. There are two types of people in this world when it comes to being genuine.

1. The type that will use you, and bring you down at the mere mention of your dreams. This is to make you feel uninspired and continue to serve them instead of going out and doing the best you can. And

2. The type of people who see your potential because of the work/service you are doing and feel it is their duty to help you reach your goal. And feel proud of you when you do.

 

Why are you continuously meeting the first type of persons who make you feel down and uninspired?

People who are faced with these circumstances do not believe in their potential. They do not have self-belief and very little to no self-love. So they want to show their potential to others by helping them. And hope that in return the other person will praise them and only then, (because of those praises), they will be feel worthy.

It is unfortunate that most people determine their self-growth and potential based on the positive words and praises that other speak or feel about them.

But, like I mentioned earlier in this article, some people will not acknowledge you worth (even if they know it) because they rather pull you down, than help you soar higher.

Help others, all the time, by blessing them with abundant love. Wish well for them, their families, dreams and so on. And if you can help by doing something physically, then do so, but without the possibility of having your own dreams fade away.

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