The keys to relationship success

Ah so it is been some time since I have written on relationships. Most articles these days are focused on self-belief, time management and goal setting. And while those are hot topics on my blog, relationships form an important role as well. And no, this article is not based just on romantic love between partners, but in any relationship.

These days the term relationship has taken a turn, and for the absolute worse! People refer to relationships as just a way to communicate with others on different levels and while that is the term of what a relationship is, the levels of engagement are merely meant to use one another to achieve a goal.

The purpose of a relationship is to play your role in that person’s life as best as you can. So, in a family relationship, you would aim to be the best husband, the best wife, the best mother, father, sibling, nephew, niece, cousin, child, grandparent and the like. And while being the best in your role, also believe that you are equally deserving of receiving love, respect and appreciation.

This is the issue in today’s society regarding honouring relationships:

First problem: People associate relationships based on what others can do for them, they believe in a taking culture rather than giving. This majority of people only maintain relationships based on what the other person can do for them. Sometimes parents are only respected if the children want money, assets or insurance. While in a love relationship, partners only love each other based on what the other can do for them.

Then the next issue is that these people who follow this, taking culture, get into relationships with people with low self-esteem and believe only in a giving culture. 

This type of person loves to please others for the purpose of gaining self-worth. They don’t believe that they are worthy of much and do things to please others as they feel that they owe it to them. Also, they feel that if someone gives them recognition then and only then they are worthy. But that feeling of worth only lasts for a few minutes as there is no inner respect. There is no feeling of, “I am worthy of greatness”.

Imagine the disaster in relationships and in society when these two types of people meet. One will keep wanting, never being satisfied therefore not being grateful and one will keep on giving, thinking that appreciation will make them feel good.

There are two keys to relationship success and both lie in your own pocket. The keys are gratitude for all that you have and for all that people do for you and the key to self-belief that attract others to also see your worth.

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Stay blessed!

Salona